She worries about what other people think and she is insecure. She msgs her bf constantly and of course, wishes that she could be happy with him, but it’s so hard and everything she does to be the best gf she possibly can isn’t really working for her. She whines to you because she doesn’t have a lot of friends, or isn’t extremely sociable. You definitely do wonder if she’s with the guy just because of the potential of marriage.
She need to really learn this phrase: "Men do not value what they do not need to work for"
By not putting value on herself, she is literally a doormat for any guy she dates. By being constantly available, she is an open book…. there is no mystery nor challenge for the guy at the moment, and the worst thing is, he knows that she will be there even if he doesn’t do anything… and tadaaaaaa… he doesn’t.
One thing that will work (well, if it doesn’t, it’ll do wonders for her self-esteem anyway), is to go get a facial, spa, massage, whatever it is that will make her feel good, dress up, and get outtt there. Go to places where men her age frequent, do more social networking, do more talking. Go to places that will make her feel good, like a woman. Make time for herself, and pamper herself more. Go out with her more too, go on a little trip to a country she’s never been to. When you are away on vacation and doing things you would NEVER do here, it’ll change you, and you’d like it.
Men tend to want what they can’t have. It’s just human instinct. So if she suddenly cancels plans, or suddenly stops smsing/calling him often, he will wonder about it, and he will experience what we call a fear of loss. She can say things like “Oh, I was with John yesterday. You remember him?” and not emphasize nor give an excuse for not calling. He will become curious, and will want to know who this “John” is. By being available for other people in her life, not just for her bf, she will begin to create more of an individual life for herself, and I daresay she will love it.
Tell her NOT to initiate anymore. Let her bf do the initiating. She needs to be patient in order to create the type of relationship she wants.
I don’t really think it’s totally the guy’s fault for the relationship. “Too possessive” can actually be a valid reason why one of the guys was cheating on your other friend. Sure, I definitely agree with you that the personalities of both men need a lot of work, but again, it’s not entirely their fault.
Some guys treat women like that simply because they know that no matter how they act, these women won’t leave them easily. They like the attention these women are giving them, and it’s fun to toy with these women’s feelings. They like to see how far they can go, and because these women do not respect themselves in the first place, these men don’t respect them.
<p>Why does it seem like guys loose their passion overtime? They only do sweet things and say stuff like ” I can’t go to sleep without hearing your voice everynight”? Why is it not possible to not have stages and phases in a relationship?</p>
It’s not just guys, it’s people. We as people loose our passion for the ones we love because we get too comfortable. We do all of this soul searching, we can be the sweetest people, but when we finally get what we want, something inside of us stops trying, we stop making our loved ones feel special, we stop loving them everyday and we slowly and surely lose that passion. People think that just because we are loved by someone and or vice versa, that means we can go to rest and never have to try..when in reality it should be opposite.
It’s not that it’s impossible, but all relationships have to go through stages, and it’s not so much bad stages of losing passion, regaining love, and then losing it, etc, etc. I think we go through more of tests stages. Like “a crush” stage, then a “I love you” stage, and then the “I’m in love with you” stage you know? Stages are good, I think they separate the weak from the tough, and the real from the fake…but always remember that falling in love is the easy part, staying in love now that’s the everyday challenge. <3
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